Dating abuse does include physical and sexual violence.
But it also can include emotional and verbal abuse – which includes put-downs, insults, and threats.
1 in 5 college students reported some form of physical violence and abuse in their dating relationships.
REALITY: Most abusers do not use violence at the workplace or in other non-intimate relationships to solve conflict.
In fact, less than 10% of teen victims report seeking help. Kids are being abused, resources are available, but the link between the two is missing. What follows are some myths about teen dating violence that may prevent youth from seeking help, or receiving help when they do reach out.
Myth: If a person stays in an abusive relationship, it must not really be that bad. Almost 80% of girls who have been physically abused will continue to date their abusers. These include fear, emotional dependence, low self-esteem, feeling responsible, confusing jealousy and possessiveness with love, threats of more violence, or hope that the abuser will change.
The sooner action is taken, be it a police caution, warning or arrest, the greater the chance of stopping the stalking.
Fact: An abusive or violent relationship can happen to anyone in an intimate relationship regardless of marital status.
REALITY: It is estimated that relationship violence occurs in 1⁄4 to 1⁄3 of all intimate relationships.And, not all domestic partners can be or are married.Fact: People who are abused by their dating or domestic partner do not stay in the relationship because they like being bullied.Fact: When things get bad, people leave, escape, or protect themselves. For teenagers, these reasons are compounded by peer pressure, a fear of getting in trouble with adults, and the potential loss of friends.We need to find ways to lessen the stigma and perceived consequences of asking for help among teens. It doesn’t have the same consequences/isn’t as dangerous as domestic violence in adult relationships.Many myths surround the issue of violence against women, and the perpetration of these myths — especially those that excuse the perpetrator and blame the victim — reinforces behavior which contributes to sexual assault, domestic violence and stalking.